Hurtful Words Are Like Wildfire
The family and friends gathered for the celebration. And now, the tables are gone, dishes are washed, and decorations have been taken down. The only evidence of the party that remains is a cluster of balloons. They were once bright and flowing, yet now are losing their luster. Blowing in the breeze, and deflating……
Reminds me of what can happen to relationships…….
Hurtful words take the air out of us.
They rob us of security, acceptance and belonging. They deprive us from nurturing strong and enduring relationships……..
Sadly, it appears that has become the way of the world.
Psalm 64:3 says, “They sharpen their tongues like swords and aim their bitter words like arrows.”
I have been pierced with arrows of bitter words. Have you?
The book of Proverbs has many things to say about words.
The negative outcomes of words are: makes tempers flare, crushes the spirit, destroy friends, constant quarrels, stirs up trouble, causes ruin, and lying reveals hatred toward its victim.
Harsh words make tempers flare (15:1) A deceitful tongue crushes the spirit (15:4) The mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words (15:28) Their words are a destructive blaze (16:27) Fools’ words get them into constant quarrels (18:6) The words of the wicked conceal violent intentions (10:11) The mouth of the wicked speaks perverse words (10:32) With their words, they destroy their friends (11:9) The wicked are trapped by their own words (12:1) The words of the wicked are like a murderous ambush (12:6) Their words always stir up trouble (24:2) Smooth words may hide a wicked heart (26:23) People may cover their hatred with pleasant words (26:24) A lying tongue hates its victims (26:28) Flattering words cause ruin (26:28)
Someone says something hurtful to another,
And they share it with another,
Who shares it with another,
Whom also shares it with another…
Before you know it a wild fire of hurtful words is out of control.
Tempers flared and embers ignited – similar to a brush fire.
I find myself today, surrounded by walls of fire burning all around me. Just when I think it’s contained and the flames are subsiding…someone spews more hurtful words.
Comparable to dousing kindling with fuel, the fire jumps the boundary lines, and as a result the fire continues….
Although I have no firefighter abilities….I do know this:
I cannot stay close to the fire and not get burned.
So what is a person to do? Share with me your thoughts of resolution…….and tomorrow I will share mine…..

3 thoughts on “Hurtful Words Are Like Wildfire”

  1. Terri Rausch says:

    Love this one Dana. Yes, who hasn't been hurt by words…I think it's what we do with them once they have come out.
    I love your point about the fire. It is a good thing to stop and consider if we are putting out the fire, or adding to it by repeating hurtful words. I love what Proverbs 26:20 says, "where not wood is, the fire goes out, so where no talebearer is the strife ceases."
    And, do we do what Jesus has told us to do, if we are hurt by someone, to go to that someone only and make it right? If we did this, how many fires would be put out immediately? Oh that we would stop and consider how our actions effect things.

  2. Renee says:

    I do agree that words can be so hurtful and can also be very damaging. However I also believe that you CAN stay close to the fires without getting burned, actually even be in the midst of the fire and remain whole and unharmed!
    In Daniel 3 it talks about the three men in the fire "Look I see four men walking around in the fire" (the Lord is always with us) and "They saw the fire had not harmed their bodies nor was a hair on their heads singed, their robes were not scorched and there wasn't even a smell of fire on them!
    Also in Isaiah 43:2 it says "when you walk through the fire you will not be burned, the flames will not set you ablaze!"
    Praise The Lord that we do not have to fear the fire, our job is the sometimes harder job of trusting that The Lord is there with us in the midst and will bring us through smelling not like an ashtray but a flower! I love you Dana and think you are amazing 🙂

  3. Rudenele says:

    Great writing Aunt Dana. I can take this, learn, and grow!

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